St. Luke in the Fields is an "inclusive" church that has a mixed straight-gay congregation. It has a church school that is one of the finest private schools in the city. It is very easy and wrong to only point out the gay points of this church; the church baptizes more children than many churches in the city, owing to the membership of many young families, as well as long time older members.
The things that draw me to this church are (1) liturgy, (2) music, and (3) community. I love visiting this church whenever I'm in NYC.