My wife and I saw Mueller for nearly two years, as a couple, to discuss certain issues that had always weighed on an otherwise happy marriage that had lasted nearly 20 years and had produced two wonderful children. Several months into our treatment, our weekly sessions became biweekly since we found ourselves making little progress; we simply had little to complain about in our sessions. It became a bit of a joke between the two of us. My wife and I would meet for lunch before our sessions to try and come up with things to complain about in our sessions with Slinkyneck (a nickname we had for him describing how he would swing his neck back and forth during our sessions, extolling us to spew forth our laments and feelings). We ended our couples’ therapy with him, but my wife continued to see him for counseling concerning parenting issues and non-stay-at-home mothering issues (according to her). Mueller never contacted me to see if I was comfortable with his continuing a therapeutic relationship with my wife without my being present. I became very unsettled with this relationship a few months later when a significant privacy issue arose in our marriage, in which my head-case of a mother-in-law crossed a significant boundary. This caused a falling out between my mother-in-law and me, and drove a huge wedge between my wife and me. The crux of the sessions with Mueller swung back to one about my marriage, only I was not present. Again, Mueller made no attempt to contact me. When I became increasingly alarmed over the subsequent months, owing to the increasing rift in my marriage, I made further attempts to contact Mueller, each of which were ignored. He once left a message for my wife disdaining my attempts to contact him, lamenting my using up too much of his answering machine.
My wife recently filed for a divorce of our 20+ year marriage. I am devastated. Our two young sons are devastated. My wife continues to see Mueller weekly. Mueller’s practice is his livelihood, and it requires a recurring client revenue stream. I believe that Mueller’s realization that he could not keep us as a couple-client, but that he could capitalize on my wife’s fears and laments, compelled him to continue to attempt to treat my wife. KA-CHING! Other therapists I have spoken to about this situation have called him unethical. I will be considering a lawsuit against him after this divorce is finalized.
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